Help you request for what you want

Getting Help you Request

Are you getting the help you request? 

What do you do if you ask someone to help you and they do not follow through?  I remember a story I heard from a person at my old work place.  They had too much work to do because several staff were away and they said they kept asking for help and nothing happened. When I asked who they had asked, they responded everyone.

When you need help whether it be at work, or at home, or just on yourself with personal development, health or wealth, you ask for it. However, are you getting the help that you want and need? When you are not receiving the help you need it can be due to many reasons. Let’s explore some of those reasons.

Recently I renewed my first aid certificate at a course in the city.  If you have ever studied first aid, you would be aware of the acronym DRABC for using first aid on a person. Later it was changed to DRABCD. With my renewal I was taught the new version of DRSABCD, with the “S” being the latest addition.  The “S” is the mnemonic for send for help. This means either you or someone you yell at dialling triple zero in Australia. When we practicing on a client and we got to the send for help stage of the process, the instructor was the person who would call emergency services.  Her instructions to us in getting her help was:

  1. Look her in the eye,
  2. Use her name,
  3. Ask her to specifically call triple zero.

We were told that it has been found that if you just ask anybody to call triple zero, everyone assumes someone else will do it and no one does the actual call.  In bringing this back to asking for help, it means that you need to be specific in who you ask and what you ask.  Therefore, if you do not get what you need, check whether you actually asked someone specifically and what you asked them for.

Another reason why you may not get the help you request is that you don’t ask a specific person for help and they say “Yes”. However, do you actually know what they mean by yes? I learnt years ago when I was working in IT that a person may say yes to a programming task I gave them, but what they were really saying yes to was not what I thought they said yes to.  They were not saying they could complete the programming task on time.  Instead they were saying they will endeavour to see what they could do, and would get back to me with their best effort.  Due to this misunderstanding of what was meant by yes, I realised I needed to be clear in my mind and theirs on what yes meant.  So when asking for help and the person says “Yes”, check that you both understand what the yes implies.

Lastly, if a person does ask for help specifically and is clear on what the person means by yes, then the reminding question is whether they are actually able to produce the help you requested?  You may assume that when a person says yes it may mean I can give you what you want. The problem is that the person cannot actually do it and they simply have a problem that they cannot say no. You may need to check that the person has the ability, tools, or authority to provide what you are asking for.

In summary, if you’re not getting what you want help for, then ask these three questions:

  1. Are you asking the person specifically?
  2. What does their Yes actually mean?
  3. Can they provide the help you request?

The clearer you are with you requests for help, the more help you will receive.

Have a great day achieving your success.


David Donahoo

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